Dear Amy,

I really enjoyed your article. You write from a place of honesty & vulnerability, which is always a pleasure to read.

My kiddos are 21 & 18 (in two weeks). When they were little & I used to be a yeller,” it was my mother’s voice coming out of my mouth. Now, I don’t yell nearly as much, & the only advice I ever pass on to new parents (if they ask) is to keep your mouth shut. As in, don’t criticize, only support. I haven’t gotten in trouble or hurt my children once by keeping my mouth shut, even if I had to physically bite my tongue.

If, by any chance, my mouth opens to correct something or to nit-pick on something, I force myself to say, “I love you,” instead & just stop.

Oh, & I never add anything after I say, “I’m sorry.” That’s it. Not that you’re asking for advice — your article was perfect!

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