Dear Daniel,

In my father’s wise words, “That man is smart. He thinks like I do.” I wholeheartedly agree with you.

I am proud of the fact that I am raising a son (now 17) who is not afraid to hug. Who has no problems saying “I love you.” As a matter of fact, he says it a bit too much, not to just to us, his parents, or his girlfriend, or to his guy friends, but also to people who hand him food at a fast-food drive thru. But I am proud of him for that.

I don’t give a shit if he’s gay. As far as I am concerned, the ability to love trumps WHO he loves. Homosexuality changes nothing about a person’s essential character, their decency, their moral compass, their intelligence & sense of humor. What I care care about is this: Do you listen well? Do you look another person in the eyes when talking with them? Do you show enough self-respect to care about this world — pick up your trash & maybe other’s, too? Use your gifts wisely? And, of course, a big one: Can you reach out to another person with love & not care what others think? A hug, a touch, can be an ultimate comfort, can confirm another person’s humanity.

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