Tremendous article! Invaluable advice, whether dealing with family or employees!
My husband works for an organization that has a terrific culture of wellness, & we frequently adopt specific things from that at home. For one, before we eat, each of us says what we’re grateful for (you cannot say the food in front of you or the people in the room, it’s both understood & too easy, you gotta dig deeper). For another, we try to catch the kids doing good things & compliment them on it. “Hey, thank you for taking care of the dishes in the sink without being asked, that was fantastic!” “You practiced guitar for two hours last night — way to work hard!” And the usual “Thank you,” is accompanied by, “your kindness,” or “your thoughtfulness.” We try to be specific.
One of my favorite quotes is from JD Salinger: “I am a paranoid in reverse. I often think that people are trying to do good things for me behind my back.”