My mother, Liza (pronounced Leeza) Vyortkin, believes in the boomerang theory of the universe. In other words, whatever you throw out there is returned to you.
For example, when I told her that my daughter, Riva, and I, are going to go work out together, she told me a story of when she was a young woman living in Minsk, Soviet Union. Her mother was suffering with high blood pressure. So, my mom took her to the Dinamo Club, a sort of a sport center, where she participated in exercise classes for senior adults. In the winter, my mom would put her mom on skis and pulled her along.
Then, as she was about to retire, I “introduced” her and my father to the YMCA. She loves it. She takes several classes, as well as uses the recumbent bike and the treadmill, and my dad uses the treadmill, then socializes or reads.
Now that my daughter and I belong to the same club, my mom pointed out the circular motif to me.
“And, I used to call my mother every day. Not out of a sense of obligation, but because I wanted to. Now you call me daily. Just wait — your kids are going to do the same for you,” she said.
It’s nice if they would, I think, but I would be just as happy if they called me once a week to check in and talk about their lives. So, if my mother’s boomerang theory holds, they probably will.
My husband said that it sounds like karma. I like to think of it as an echo effect. What you shout out, you get back. But whatever the name of this is, it simply makes sense. Think negatively, you’ll be bound to attract negative people and energy. Smile, and the world smiles with you. Not being a natural optimist, this takes work for me. However, I do think it’s worth the effort.